KKT North Cyprus News issue #24Thu 23rd Jan 2014                                    



How Guilt and Feelings of Selfishness Can Trap You… and Your Whole Family
Lorraine Stuart

“You’re too selfish! You only think of yourself!”
Guilt and shame producing phrases echo through many people’s childhood. Parents, teachers, grandparents, siblings, even complete strangers use those words, and others repeat them.Those phrases are used because they work… at least in the short run. They are great way to “cope with” and manage children.

Lorraine Stuart
Lorraine Stuart

The primitive brain’s first and foremost job is to keep you alive. It KNOWS that when you’re little, without the people who love and protect you, you’re hyena food. So there is a high priority on being acceptable to your “tribe.” Being told that you’re selfish can create a subconscious trigger… better shape up or they’ll reject you. Better shape up… or you’ll be abandoned and die. Depending on how the words are used, and what else is going on in the child’s life… those words might make them toe the line for a bit, or they might cause a “freeze” response that keeps that fear stuck in the body and mind of that child. Even as an adult, there may be an almost compulsive need to please others and never ever be considered selfish. The shame and guilt will certainly make the child easier to control. It makes it easier to cope with their needs, wants, and desires (probably because they’re afraid to mention them very much). And it can leave scars that prevent those children from becoming really powerful adults.

People feel selfish taking the time to improve how they feel. They are worried about taking time from work or family, and are concerned that it is “wrong.”It’s so easy to still get caught up in the guilt and shame, and it’s not your fault! The primitive brain doesn’t know that it’s safe to do things for you now.
You aren’t a little kid. You can certainly enjoy paying attention to your family and spending time with them. That is important. So is work. AND it is also crucially important for your health and well-being to take time for yourself, too. (Taking the parking brake off on your life can do great things for your family and friends, too, of course.) Your children and your grandchildren learn from your behavior. Whether they want to or not, they copy you. If you clear your blocks and start living a different life, you’re role modeling that behavior for your children–including your adult children. If they see you being calm and resilient, their primitive brains copy your energy.

Spending a little time now, to get quality time and great role modeling for your family later, is a great investment.It may feel selfish to focus on yourself, but it can also be really smart and very generous. If it allows you to have more give, and to offer better habits and connection, it can be the gift of a lifetime!
On airplanes, they say to put your breathing mask on first, before taking care of others. It’s smart and generous to make sure everyone gets through safely, and that’s the best way. The same is true here. Take the time to reprogram your primitive brain, or clear your self-sabotaging behaviors, so you’ll have more energy and love to offer to your family. AND you can teach them how to live the lives they want to.



Alternate Names & Name Spellings: Precious Opal, Common Opal, Singing Fire
Color(s): Colorless, white, yellow, red, orange, green, brown, black, blue, pink
Lustre: Vitreous, Waxy, Greasy, Dull
Transparency: transparent to opaque
Common Locations:  Australia, Mexico, USA, many others

Rock Lore :  The stone name opal comes from the Sanskrit word "upala" for stone, or precious stone. There are seemingly endless varieties of opal, ranging from opaque common opal to fiery precious opal.
Keywords: inspiration
Opal is a stone of inspiration which enhances imagination and creativity. It can bring inspiration to projects and to life and Spirit. Its own spirit is at times like that of a child spontaneously playing, dashing color where ever it  pleases. Carrying this imaginative spontaneity into the realm of you life can bring strong creativity.
Opal has a larger proportion of water in it than most stones and is considered a water stone. This can help ease the effort of handling change in life. Like water rolls over and past rocks and roots in its way, the energy of opal can help continue on your path regardless of obstacles. During times of transformation, this  is an invaluable energy to work with and hold close to your heart.
Mentally, opal is said to enhance memory. It is also used to decrease confusion.
In the psychic or spiritual realm opal is used for high spiritual crystal energy vibrations. It is said to be able to help one be "invisible" in situations where one doesn't want to be noticed. This could be used in astral journeying as well as in daily life. It is also said to be able to help pick up thoughts and feelings and enhance them. It is also a protective stone, said to be particularly protective in dangerous places. Opal is used in lightwork as a stone for strong and safe dreamwork.

Emotionally, opal brings its water energy to enhance self-esteem and sense of self-worth. It can help bring these to the surface of your life in spite of anything else going on under the surface. This aligned with the inspiring love energies can help you release damaging inhibitions and access your true spiritual nature. Opal is also used to bring happy dreams and avoid nightmares. It is a soothing stone which can calm turbutlent emotions and bring a deep sense of hope and inner peace.


Opal is said to be a stone for love. It brings the inspiration of love into a stagnant heart chakra and brings renewal. This can take the form of fiery sensual love or gentler unconditional love and any shade of love in between. Opal is also said to bring fidelity to love.

Traditionally in crystal healing opal has been considered good for headaches, eyesight, Parkinson's disease, blood, insulin regulation, PMS, and the immune system. 
Opal is often associated with the Heart Chakra and Crown Chakra, but varied color opals are also related to the additional chakras.

All types of opal tend to share these energies in common, along with their own spiritual and unique energies. 

I can hardly fathom the nineteenth century superstition that opals are bad luck unless they're your birthstone.  That superstition has all but disappeared now, and for good reason. It makes no sense in terms of the stone's energy or its beauty. 


My interest in numerology really began when I started consistently noticing repeat numbers around me. Numbers like 333, 11:11, 111, 222, and even 123 started constantly showing up everywhere. I daily notice car number plates, in a traffic cue, all with the same 3 numbers  or even(567,675,765).
As I began to dig a bit deeper, both through meditation and research, I learned that seeing number sequences is becoming a common occurrence for many people, especially those on a path of spiritual growth and awakening.

Numbers, like everything else in existence, carry a specific vibration and meaning. In understanding the ‘code of numbers’, you can learn a great deal about the messages from your angels, and about your life purpose, path, and even about your personality.

There is definitely a link between the angels, and frequently seeing numerical patterns. Many of our angels are using repetitive numerical sequences as a way to draw our attention to their messages.

Next time you notice a number sequence which you’re consistently seeing… or something like 111, or 11:11, stop for a moment and become present and aware. Ask your angels what the meaning of seeing this number is, what message are they trying to convey? Some say that the numbers 444 are particularly significant meaning the angels are present.


For me, seeing recurring numbers is a huge blessing. It reminds me that my angels are with me and that in every moment there is so much more going on behind the scenes than I can even begin to comprehend. It is a reminder of the magic present in life, and of the Divine light and angelic energy which is all around.

With awareness, you can begin to understand the hidden meaning contained in the messages the angels broadcast through numbers. With this you can begin to clearly know and experience the blessings of clear angelic guidance in your life.

Numbers are everywhere, and with increased awareness, you will begin to notice there are numbers, and in them signs from the angels, and the spiritual realm around you all the time.

Numerology is the study of the vibrational meaning of numbers. Beyond seeing recurring numbers, number sequences hold meaning on many levels. Birth dates, phone numbers, addresses, ages, and more all carry a deeper level of significance, which can be tuned into through looking into numerology.



ALSO KNOWN AS -  Passion Flower

USES – Anxiety, nervous tension, nerve pain, depression, nervous exhaustion.

DESCRIPTION – Passiflora is a climbing plant, popular in gardens in Europe. It originates from South America and the East Indies and was traditionally used as a nerve tonic in neuralgia. It is used extensively in homoeopathy.

HOW IT WORKS – Passiflora has a sedative effect on the central nervous system. However, its mode of action is not clear and the active constituents in the plant have not been clearly identified. It was originally thought that the active constituent was the alkaloid known as passiflorine or Harman.

ADDITIONAL ADVICE – Avoid excessive doses. Do not use if pregnant or breastfeeding.
(A.Vogels – Herbs for healthy living)


(Doreen Virtue Oracle Cards)



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The book of the week:-

by Susan Ottaway
“A True Story”


The death of an eccentric recluse is rarely an event to be given more than a few lines in a local newspaper. But when, in September 2010, police were called to a tiny, cluttered flat in Torquay and discovered the body of local 'cat lady' Eileen Nearne, they also found a small bundle of possessions that told an amazing story. For Eileen Nearne had been an agent for the Special Operations Executive during the Second World War, going undercover in Nazi-occupied France to send wireless messages of crucial importance to the Allies.

Astonishingly, Eileen was not the only special agent in the family - her sister Jacqueline had also been an SOE. Rarely had two members of the same family sacrificed so much to such dangerous work. Sisters, Secrets and Sacrifice pays tribute to these fiercely patriotic women with hearts of courage, who fought for freedom at much personal cost. While Jacqueline narrowly avoided capture several times, tirelessly couriering secret documents for the resistance, Eileen was arrested and tortured by the Gestapo before being incarcerated at Ravensbrück concentration camp. She was only 23. This is a true story of triumph and tragedy, of two sisters who sacrificed themselves to defend our freedom, who stood shoulder to shoulder during the darkest of days.

Susan Ottaway was one of the few people Eileen spoke to about her experiences. Now for the first time, the truth about these fiercely patriotic women is told in full, their unwavering courage at great personal cost paid tribute to the last.





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